Thursday, January 22, 2009

Tough decision

Here are the prompts from Mama Kat this week:
1.) Tell us about a memorable blind date.
2.) Other than the birth of a child or your wedding, write about a joyous moment.
3.) Write about one of the most difficult decisions you have made in your life.
4.) Share the best picture you took last month and explain why it's your favorite.
Well, the only blind date I had was so way less than memorable, so that's out. I'm drawing a blank on a joyous moment right now and I don't have my pictures on this computer so those are out too. That leaves #3.
I would have to say the most difficult decision I've ever made was to divorce my ex. Many of my friends and family would say that I was stupid to stay with him as long as I did, but that was my choice. I did leave him twice with the kids and spent weeks at the womens shelter in Salem Oregon, but I did go back. Yes, I was abused, both physically and emotionally. At the time I lived across the country from my family and friends and didn't have much of a support system outside of one or two people. Who wants to complain to people about their lives? I was and still am a fairly shy person.
I stayed with him through crap I probably shouldn't have. Two criminal trials (he's a convicted felon and worse), the obvious abuse etc... I could say that I stayed for the kids, and to be honest I've gone back and forth about this decision even today. Yeah, we're both remarried, but he continues to disparage me and I have to take the high road or I will self destruct.

2 comments:

  1. You are so right, divorce is a tough decision. Sounds like you did the right thing by getting out. Noone should suffer in that way. It must have been so hard for you...
    I am sure this was tough to post, but thank you for sharing.

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  2. It was a hard decision but you're definitely better off now so it was a good decision. :)

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